Silence is golden, except when it isn’t and I am hoping
that my self-imposed hibernation from writing, with all its contributory
factors, is over. That’s not to say all the causal factors for not writing are
over but I need to start writing again. Not that this is an issue for anyone
else other than me but in the vain hope that there are readers out there who
have been disappointed by Zenpuss’s absence, then I announce a return!
Please do make comments on this and any other blogs that
you have found interesting or stimulating.
ZP
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So Madonna is at it again; shocking the world with the
explicit sexual act of showing her tit to an audience of exceptionally
excitable people in Istanbul.
Go to You tube and search for Madonna and her nipples.
Can we just contemplate this seriously for a minute? She
flashed her tit for a few seconds, and raised her eyebrows in a mocking style
at the so-called titillation of this act.
I like Madonna, most of the time. She knows what she is
doing. She knew precisely what she was doing when she removed first one bra,
and then pulled down another to reveal her pink and protruding nipple. She knew
that there would probably be public outcry at the fact that at 53 year old
woman with children was showing her tits to the world in a way that was meant
to shock and astound her audience. She knew that there would be outcry at this
tiny act of rebellion and she carried on regardless.
Why? Because she is a woman who is prepared to challenge
the conformities of sexual thinking and for this we ought to be exceptionally
grateful.
We need people like Madonna whether we like her or not.
Aren’t breasts and our reaction to them weird? Why can we
not accept that there are certain parts of our body that have multiple functions,
and that one of those functions might be sexual - or might not, or might be an unsexual
act that is actually very sexual to the viewer?
A young person seeing a woman breastfeeding for the first
time might actually be sexually stimulated by this act, especially if they have
never seen a real nipple before, though in the days of accessible porn at the
hit of a button, it is hardly believable that there are many young folk like
this. However, as many who watch porn know, it may be incredibly arousing to
look at a series of photos of bloody wonderful tits but pales into
insignificance compared with the ‘in the flesh’ stimulation of seeing a real
person in front of you getting their breasts or cock out.
Nipples are functionary. They are there to feed young
babies who suckle from their mother’s breast to taste their first experience of
nourishment. So what?
But they are also functionary as part of a sexual intimacy. Sucking the nipple of a beautiful woman, caressing their boob as their excitement of your touch literally grows before your eyes is incredibly arousing.
It is the same tit that fed a baby but for the moment you are touching it, feeling it, smoothing your fingers over it, grabbing it – it is something different. It is an exceptionally beautiful part of the female body that is there for a reason, and there would be no babies to feed if its other function of attraction was redundant.
But they are also functionary as part of a sexual intimacy. Sucking the nipple of a beautiful woman, caressing their boob as their excitement of your touch literally grows before your eyes is incredibly arousing.
It is the same tit that fed a baby but for the moment you are touching it, feeling it, smoothing your fingers over it, grabbing it – it is something different. It is an exceptionally beautiful part of the female body that is there for a reason, and there would be no babies to feed if its other function of attraction was redundant.
There are other parts of the body, of course, that also
have these complex functions. A cock slips into a cunt and makes it feel that
there is only one purpose for both parts of the body. Yet, these organs are
also there for other purposes; child-birth, insemination, pissing.
I’ve mentioned pissing before. It is an instinctive act
that we all need to do but sometimes, just sometimes when the time is right,
this act of going to the toilet can be one of the most arousing things ever.
Yet, we are so caught in our own little boxes of thought that we cannot
contemplate that this act could be incredibly sexual.
Try it, I implore you. Watching a sexual partner pissing
when your cunt is already full of explosive arousal can really get all manner
of juices flowing!
Our bodies are incredible things and we perpetually
ridicule or dismiss the sexual functions of our mind, body and soul. What
Madonna did the other day was remind us that our bodies have these multiple
functions and that it is perfectly appropriate to reveal a tit to an audience already
excited by the mere presence of this iconic woman. Why not use her body parts
to excite them further whilst simultaneously mocking the entire debacle of
humanity’s pathetic response to these small acts that may or may not be sexual
in their act – largely dependent upon the response of the viewer.
I suppose the saddest thing about this whole issue is
that it is still deemed to be shocking for the woman to have done this. The
absolute hypocrisy is hysterical. Why on earth are we shocked? Yet in a way,
without that shock it wouldn’t be as sexually arousing.
Funny world, isn’t it?
What Madonna does do when she does things like this is
get the world talking and contemplating, and for that, as I said, we ought to
be grateful. Without Madonna getting her tits out, we would glibly carry on in
life never thinking about our reactions to such things, and it needs someone
with the stature of Madonna to make us think about our perceptions and
reactions to certain issues, and in this case, the whole issue of the sexuality
of an older woman.
Which brings me unsubtly onto that issue.
It is one thing for a sexy, nubile young woman to get her
tits out for the lads but a 53 year old woman? Apparently that is obscene in
our ageist world that is perfectly prepared to dismiss the brilliance and
beauty of the mature body.
Madonna is a good looking woman, with an exceptional
body. Personally, I think her tits are a little on the small side, and the
muscled tone of her arms are scary rather than sexual but I respect her
enormously for the way she has looked after her body and continues to be a
deeply sexual woman.
But the main reason people were appalled by her act on
stage was the fact that she was an old woman. Isn’t it weird how we judge a person
by a number rather than looking at who they are and what they are? It’s
preposterous!
Let us get this clear. There is NOTHING wrong with Madonna
choosing to reveal her tits to the world, just as there is nothing wrong with
other women revealing their cunts to the world on various porn sites. There is
something terribly wrong with a woman under a certain age doing this but, for
me, there is no age limit to the beauty of woman who still feels sexual.
Maybe not everyone wants to see a 65 year old woman’s body but it is a matter of choice, and I can think of plenty of 65 year old women who have far better bodies than this particular human being. The numbers mean nothing!
Maybe not everyone wants to see a 65 year old woman’s body but it is a matter of choice, and I can think of plenty of 65 year old women who have far better bodies than this particular human being. The numbers mean nothing!
What does mean
something is the liberation that comes from being able to express oneself
sexually.
Even Madonna, a woman who has always been overt in her
sexuality, would probably have got a huge surge of arousal by doing this ‘naughty’
act. When she kissed Britney Spears on stage it was a judgement call. It was
done to provoke conversation. It was a performance, deliberately enacted to get
all those men (and women) whose dream is to watch two women performing sexual
acts on one another to rush their minds forward into the possible
post-performance pussy-munching that could occur when two women are aroused by
one another.
(Slight pause to think about this …….. mmmmmmmm!)
Madonna is in her sexual element. I know how that feels
and it is an utterly brilliant place to be; the absolute best place to be. I
want to be in my sexual element forever, and I never want to stop feeling
aroused and excited and stimulated by sex. I need my sexual element and I am
sure that Madonna needs hers too.
Yet so few of us are prepared to admit this, especially
in the later stages of life.
Which is why it was so incredibly wonderful to see a
follow up of the Madonna Nipplegate in “The Sun” of all newspapers.
It’s not very often that you get the chance to praise the
newspaper that is responsible for far too much irritation and indeed trauma for
many innocent people, but this time they got it right.
They chose some women to re-enact Madonna’s revelation,
and then they explained how they felt.
“I felt nervous
when I pulled my bra down but that’s only natural — Madonna probably did too.
But then I felt empowered, it was an incredible feeling.” said the first
woman who revealed a really lovely nipple.
Empowered. Empowered. What an utterly brilliant feeling!
“I
never feel more liberated than when I’m topless — whether on the beach or at
home.” said the next, and continues to say that she is fed up with the
prejudice towards older woman and their sexuality.
The next woman made another comment about Madonna but
should be equally relevant to all sexual women of a certain age.
“If you’re an older
lady people assume you should act like an older lady. I disagree. No matter how
old she gets she should never stop being herself.”
No matter how old anyone
gets, man or woman, you should never stop being yourself, and that includes
sexually (obviously within reason!).
These women are not freaks; they are not trying to prove
any point other than the fact that there is huge liberation in being sexual.
There is also a ridiculous amount of hypocrisy in sexuality. They point out how
it is perfectly acceptable to walk around a beach naked (sadly only in certain
places) but nipping your nip out for a second is deemed to be naughty.
We really are quite fucked up about sexuality and the
functions of our body, and our mindful reactions.
Madonna, I implore you. Keep going girl. Keep doing
things that just push the boundaries of thought on certain sexual issues.
I look forward with anticipation to her pissing on the
stage without the world going into free-fall at the utter shock of someone
doing something that we all do more than once a day.
And yes, I realise that my love of golden showers is an
acquired taste and not exactly mainstream (if you excuse the pun) but my point
is that within reason and without hurting or abusing others, we should be able
to express our sexuality in many ways and at many ages and that this is the
most liberating and empowering thing in life.
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For further reading, take a look at these two articles
from the Guardian. The comments on the latter are worth a read too.
Oh, and a glorious challenge to Bruce Springsteen too?
