c word

The C-word. The unmentionable. We are back to semantics here again, aren't we?
I have just been reading the blog comment that I received yesterday, and I liked it enormously. There was this man, honest and open about his sexuality, which in itself is invigorating, explaining how he likes looking at cunts. He sees a desirable beauty in them. He can distinguish and discriminate, identifying all the intimate and preferable parts for him. He can enjoy for his own stimulation but he can equally use the visual information for the benefit of his sexual partners, using this knowledge to excite and empower the women with whom he chooses to have sex with.
I am delighted that he likes cunts. I like to see the look in his eyes, as he delves inside mine, carefully peeling the folds of skin away, plunging his fingers inside to manipulate and widen an already open and needy hole, sensitising every fibre as he smoothly submerges himself.
But he is probably unusual, maybe unique. Firstly, in that he is utterly genuine about his love of the beauty of a woman's cunt but secondly in that he is prepared to talk about it openly, without inhibition (within reason!), explaining quite candidly, that he is not mad, he is not perverse. He is simply an honest man reflecting his joy of the woman's body without feeling the need to hide his love of pornography under the sheets of his bed.
But let us explore this word - cunt. The word that is so disgraceful that it has its very own single letter acronym. How many words are known by a single letter? Do you know the A-word, the D-word and the S-word? Well I suppose there is the F-word; another unmentionable that we should pretend does not exist. ‘Cunt’ has such derogatory undertones. It is not a word that can be mentioned in public in the same way that ‘fuck’ can. It is deemed to be uncouth using this word publicly, so that when you use it in a 1:1 sexual situation, there is a slight unease with the first mention of it. I can remember sitting in a car, some time ago, when the man mentioned above wanted to explore me in a very intimate way. It wasn’t the first time that he had finger-fucked me in his car, but he, like me, enjoys sexual language, and he realized very quickly how much I enjoyed him languishing his linguistic expertise in my ear as part of a marvelous and enticing foreplay. He, being a thoughtful and politically correct person, mentioned how he was excited and energized by having his fingers in my cunt. And then he asked if I minded him using that word. I had no problem with him using it in that context, despite the fact that in other situations, I did feel uncomfortable with it. My discomfort with the word ‘cunt’ however, is the same as any other word that is used to deliberately degrade women. The word ‘bitch’ though is far more cutting, sharp and demeaning. And I do dislike the word cunt being used to describe something as dirty, bad, the ultimate nasty put down. I dislike the fact that people automatically see the word ‘cunt’ and think ‘yuck’!
I wonder whether our friends across the nations have the same problem with finding a word that reflects the wonder and the intense sexuality of a woman’s parts. The French word is ‘vagin’. What are their alternatives? I don’t know. What I do know is that one of their so-called slang words for vagina is ‘petite fleur’. How wonderful that our lovely counterparts across La Manche automatically use a beautiful image within their terminology for this thing of divine beauty.
But of course, as with any word, the meaning is in the use and visa versa. It is about context.
Let us look further. Our feminist friends have not really helped the cause. They too have taken umbrage with the word. It is a dirty word. It is degrading. It is denigrating women. Well, if you allow it to, then yes it is. But tell me an alternative that is appropriate. Ben Elton did a wonderful sketch a few years ago about the acceptable word variations for the penis, and the fact that there really was only one appropriate word for a woman’s bits – the VAGINA!. Isn’t vagina, he went on to say, such a clinical sounding word. I cannot replicate the humour but needless to say there was a long list of words used to describe the male sexual organs – cock, dick, willy, prick, manhood, schlong, shaft – the list is endless. All of these words were deemed to be okay, able to spoken aloud in general. What were the alternatives for vagina? Cunt (socially unacceptable – infact I am not sure he was allowed to use this word on the BBC), toot toot (honestly) miff, pussy. Even the latter was deemed as unacceptable by the majority.
So you are in a situation with a new partner. You badly want to explain how you are in dire need of penetrative sex. What are your alternatives?
“Hey, I would like your penis in my vagina”. Wouldn’t do too much for me.
“Hey, put your cock in my vagina.” Okay – may have used the cock word, which is a bit raunchier but the v-word is like an antidote for the blue pills.
“Hey, put your cock inside my cunt”. It really does have a certain ring to it, doesn’t it? It gets you in the mood. It makes you think that there is some worth to making that journey. Well, let’s make this known. Use the word for your benefit lady. After all, you do want something out of this sexual experience don’t you?
Maybe, there should be a feministic re-evaluation of this word. Maybe, we should reclaim it as our own. Maybe, we should get more women to consider using this word as a sensual, exciting word that reflects the rawness and earthiness of their sexuality. By placing it in the domain of women, then we can choose to make the word acceptable. How joyous it would be to do that, to lift a word from its social prison, allowing it the freedom that it deserves. Its very make up with hard consonants at the beginning and end of the word, with that mute, downward pushing penultimate ‘n’ and that urgent and most underused of vowels, standing its ground in the phonetic make up just epitomizes the urgency, the excitement, the thrill of the part of the body that it is trying to describe. So yet again, I call upon my fellow females to have a little rethink about this word, about how it is used, and see if we, with the aid of some well-meaning and sexually adjusted men, can reclaim this special little cunt word