The Age of Sexism or the Sexism of Age

The Age of Sexism or the Sexism of Age

Or neither?

Today I am probably writing about the age of sexual ageism and how once more we have fallen into the trap of societal expectation rather than relying on our instinct and our primal sexual desires.

We do live in an age of sexism despite the many advances in feminism. Women still get paid less than men. Female sexuality is still not fully understood with an apparent lack of urgency to do any further scientific research. There is still an expectation with some women that it is the man who should be doing the wooing. We still have quite a road to travel.

There is also sexism within age or “Sexism of Age”. Ask the BBC if you want a definitive definition. They seem to have understood the sexism of age by getting rid of older women because high definition television apparently shows us more wrinkles that we allegedly find displeasing.

Older men still manage to get work but according to the Beeb, we don’t mind their wrinkly bits.

Which brings me onto the age of sexual ageism.

The age of sexual ageism is a nasty little issue that is so often overlooked in our society. People find older mothers abhorrent, not necessarily because they are the age of grandparents but more because it suggests that they are still “at it” and that is not a very pleasant thought apparently.

Men who father children well into their seventies and eighties are seen as dirty old men rather than virile.

The little blue pill has actually added to this problem so now younger generations are under the impression that as soon as a bloke hits their fifties, his bits start to droop and he is reliant on the chemistry of Viagra to get their cocky parts to work.

From personal experience, I would like to verify that this is not the case, well certainly not with my beautiful 50 something. His cock is in perfect working order, thank you very much. Furthermore, I am eagerly anticipating many more decades of sexual togetherness where all sorts of sexual excitements can come from both is erect penis and his delightfully adventurous fingers.

Having a lover who is ten years older has certainly given me a sexual experience that I definitely did not have when I was younger. Our love making can go on for hours. A quickie is fifteen minutes not two, and let me assure any young readers that this is a good thing!

There is something rather amazing about being with a man who has enjoyed a lifetime of sexual learning, and guess who reaps the benefit? Moi!

And this brings me to another issue. Should I really be the only one benefitting from this study and demonstrative knowledge of the female being?

In an age of sexual ageism, most people think that he should probably give up this sexual excitement. By the time he is of an age to retire, he should definitely have given it up. Most certainly he should be monogamist if he has to do it at all, though clearly, according to society, celibacy should be the order of the day.

Well, society is wrong. And I have to say that I have been wrong too.

So conditioned am I into thinking that there is something wrong with large age gaps that I have hysterically overlooked the fact that I am in a relationship that other people might suggest has an age differentiation too wide. However, I think that it is eleven years plus difference that really bothers those unenlightened folk in life.

My lover has had the opportunity to have sex with a woman who is half his age. At first, I thought this was inappropriate. Yet now I am thinking, why should it be so?

In many ways it is no different than the ten years between him and I. If she was younger, and I mean significantly younger, then that would be different. If he were in some sort of powerful position, then that too would be different as it could potentially be deemed as exploitative, but who the hell says that two people who are sexually attracted to one another cannot have sex merely because there is a couple of decades between them? Only a green eyed monster – hee hee!

It didn’t stop Catherine Zeta Loveliness and her sixty six year old husband. Whilst I may not necessarily wish to sit here conveying such positivity about marriage, I am really pleased that theirs has been a success (and if anything were to happen tomorrow, I would still regard the longevity of their partnership a success). It has proved society wrong. It has shown that a beautiful woman is perfectly normal in being attracted to an older man, especially if he is allegedly very practiced in the art of knowing how to make a woman climax.

If Catherine Zeta Jones has as many orgasms with her older man as I do with mine, then she is not only very fortunate but extremely sensible in wanting her man rather than a supposed Brad Pitt whose age is more akin to the Welsh buxom one.

Recently, I have been talking to a group of women who I work with. They are much younger than me but are probably more aware of their sexual needs than I was at the same age.

They fancy a fuck. Some of them want to find their perfect man and live happily ever after but I will work on them so that they are fully aware of the facts before they get into such a partnership. Others, however, are honest and enlightened enough to admit that what they really want is decent sex with an interesting guy who is going to sexually satisfy them whilst also being able to be sociable. They are not looking for lurve; just a cockful of it.

At first, I automatically thought about a group of young men who I know who could do their duty and get on with having a decent shag with my friends, but in reality, if I really want women to be enlightened sexually, which is indeed Zenpuss’s mission, then maybe I should be pointing them towards older blokes; not necessarily my lover but certainly people of his age who can keep it up and keep it passionate far longer than men of their own age.

And why not my lover? I rather fancy being a voyeurist, and looking in on these activities, seeing how much younger women can get from a horny man who likes pussy. I rather like being a facilitator of women learning what can happen sexually and positively, and how they should never settle for anything less. Empowering these women has actually become quite important to me. I do not see an age difference being anything other than advantageous in the expressiveness and fulfilment of female sexuality. I genuinely don’t think that most younger men can possibly give as much as an older man who is turned on and excited. I mean let us face facts, an older guy is not usually going to shoot his load too early, and if he is turned on, believe me, he can stay stiff for a considerable amount of time.

Now I am fully aware that some people will disagree with me. I am not advocating paedophilia. I am not suggesting that at all. But once women are of a certain age and maturity with enough nous to know that they might be missing something sexually, then why should they not explore the talents of an older man.

And likewise, why shouldn’t a horny sixty year old woman who is fit, active and gagging for a fuck invite younger men into her special place? Maybe they too could learn from a sexy older woman who can be assertive enough to tell her young lovers what is required, thus enabling them to be even greater lovers ahead of their chronological age?

Like with many things that I write about, this is all a thought that should probably be pursued further. I hope it at least makes people think.

Men and women of a certain age are still sexual beings. They still like sex, enjoy it and need it. This is perfectly normal.

The idea of sharing their experience and understanding makes perfect sense. In every other area of life, people suggest respecting their elders and learning from them, so why not in sex too?

Comments gratefully received.